Thursday, January 31, 2013


At every time of our lives do we have people we look up to; people we aspire to be, places and heights we attain to reach. Mentoring is a good attribute particularly when we mentor people with good morals, unshady past, and hardworking successful individuals.

Mentoring can be negative particularly when a person with questionable character is being mentored, following in such footsteps only proves we will become just like this individual or even worse. Mentoring a person even makes one more successful than the person we initially mentored.

It is a good attribute to mentor; it gives a direction of where you want to be and who you want to be. Mentoring is an act of commitment, attaining to achieve set goals for oneself.

“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen and a push in the right direction” – John C. Crosby

Poem for the Day - Hunted Past

It awakens one at night
So far yet so near
The past brings nothing but fright
One could only fear
Memories in sight
Hunted past one could not bear
Always there with delight.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Criminal Minds

There is a criminal in every mind that exists on the planet. The thoughts some have and do not practicalize, others have these thoughts and practicalize them and cause chaos constantly; they are angered and disturbed persons who find satisfaction in expressing crime and hate on others.

Criminal minded persons can be cured by being surrounded with love and care; most can be helped with psychologists, who have special talents of listening to people and offering them help through series of healing sessions.

Minds who plot crime from childhood need not be ignored but helped before it matures into a deadly non-stoppable individual. Some parents notice their children aged between 4 and 7 carry out insane criminal activities deliberately on their siblings or toys. The best way to help is by showing extra attention and love to troubled children rather than constant scolding and ignoring. In the case of teenagers and adults, the society may be the cause of plotting criminally; they should be moved from such unconducive environments to more friendly zones where they can fit in, but extreme cases requires psychological sessions of therapy. We can change criminal minds by occupying ourselves with things we love and things that make us happy.

“Crimes are not to be measured by the issue of events, but by the bad intentions of men.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

Poem for the Day - Mistakes

The mistakes she had made
Cost her sanity
The time she had bade
The little lad inhumanity
She was sure then
The best decisions had been made
Not until when
When she began to fade
Thoughts of her lad
Made her shiver and wail.
Into the arms of his dad
He had made sail
She should have fought for him
Strength was against her
Life was so dim
Peace was but so far
‘twas a mistake never to forget
An action irrevocable
She would someday budget
To sacrifice her freedom for a lad irreplaceable.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Black & White

Colors are significant to our lives and symbolize a great deal of meaning to our existence. The colors black and white mean dark and light, mean evil and good, means villain and saint. The colors do not always have such meanings when it is associated with clothing, accessories, cars, books, fittings and household appliances.

Black and white actually complements each other through the dark and light tones. Spiritually, black and white deals with the devil and saints, but physically, so many meanings ensue to depict what each individual’s perspective determines.

Black and white are regular colors like yellow, blue, pink and red. The combination on a zebra is perfect, the combination on lawyers is unique and the blend on walnut is remarkable. Our notion on colors should be based on what we feel as individuals and not what others think.

“There is no black-and-white situation. It’s all part of life. Highs, lows, middles.” – Van Morrison

Poem for the Day - The Will

Seated they all
Twelve in number
All so calm and tall
Like Great Uncle they all could remember.

The will was opened
Ready to be read
Silent words were spoken
Futures were about to be said.

Anticipated they all
Confidence in receiving a share
They would all have a ball
None knew there’d be a tear.

The will had been read
Stunned in silence they all were
Not a penny even for bread
Went to the dozen here.

Silently in shame they all left
Pride shrunken to humility
None could have wept
Great Uncle’s will had nothing but simplicity.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Thinking of Others First

We live in a cruel world where everyone thinks of himself alone and his personal gain. There are certain secrets to successful living which most of us do not know and that is thinking of others, someone else is thinking or will think of you.

Our personal gain and interest has taken the better part of us,; we want to acquire wealth and success for ourselves without showing others the way up. When we are successful, naturally our friends and neighbors should be successful too. But it does not work that way because most people do not think of others at all.

Thinking of others first can help us become better people, it helps us think outside our world, assists us in learning and knowing what it is like to be that other person.

“There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you” – Paramahansa Yogananda

Poem for the Day - Grandma’s Words

Who knew the words would
 have meaning someday?
Who ever knew our constantly old and quiet
Grandma saw beyond the present?
Who could tell the wisdom that
 emanated from Grandma?
Grandma with skin so wrinkled
Grandma with smile so weak
Grandma with movements so slow
Grandma with nods of understanding
Grandma’s words have touched many
Grandma’s words remain alive.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Pets have Feelings

Pets are like humans, they feel pain, love, and suffering, are very sensitive. Pet lovers would agree that when the owner is unhappy, the pet is likewise unhappy. Pets are in our lives to add color, to give us support, to see the world in a different perspective. Humans are guide to pets and pets are guides to humans in return. The way we treat our pets is the way our pets will treat us.

Some people do not like pets; therefore they should not have pets. The way we feel towards a pet can be felt by the pet itself. When love radiates from us, it draws the pet closer to us, a feeling of rejection repels the pets from us. Pets are more spiritual than humans and so can feel our innermost senses before we even show them.

 To have a pet, love must be shown like you would want to be loved. Speak to the pet, walk, play, laugh and share your thoughts. They are living creatures and understand our innermost care; above all the love of a pet is unconditional.

“Some people say they love animals and yet harm them nonetheless; I’m glad those people don’t love me”-Marc Bekoff

Poem for the Day - Smoking Pot

Every night we would watch
In rapt attention as the coal sparkled
Like firecrackers under the large pot
We would wait in anticipation
To perceive the scent to emanate
From the smoking pot
Within minutes we could tell
The scent spoke volumes of what dinner would be
Happy were we when the scent was a favorite dish
We would leap like gazelles
Dancing to the rhythm the lid made
Mother’s smoking pot was the evening’s entertainment
For we all sat close by
To wait for our belly’s satisfaction.

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Neighborly Love

A good friend once said she could not love anyone she did not know. I immediately thought of her neighbor who lived alone and how she must have longed for company over and over again. My friend did not even realize her neighbor must have been lonely over the years until I directed her attention to her.

Neighborly love does not have to involve giving of money or patronizing for goods and products, but a friendly company who can listen and give advice occasionally. Some neighbors can be very unfriendly, but we all need a shoulder to lean on.

Neighborly love involves inviting your neighbor for an outing, a snack in your home, a walk in the park or exchange of novels and recipes. Most lonely people think of suicide and see the world as a dark hole about to swallow them up. We should be the light to our neighbors especially the lonely ones.

“A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbors”-Richard Whately.

Poem for the Day - Heart of Gold

Born in a noble way
Just like every other person
With a unique star one can’t say
She appears like a lesson every single day
To those whose lives have worsen
She appears so gay
Her life a different version
One can’t really say
But a heart of gold.

She shares her all
To those who lack
She gives out a call
All arrive white and black
She hopes never to fall
From reaching out from her sack
Overflowing and tall
Wonder woman never draws back
Reaching out without a wall
She has but a heart of gold.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Being Good

The act of doing good is not the same as being good. Being good entails a whole lot, thinking good thoughts, acts of kindness and love, making good plans and promoting good things in our immediate society.

Being good involves neighborly love, covering up for colleagues at work, helping a classmate at school, visits and phone calls to parents and guardians, showing care to strangers and the list goes on.

Being good does not entail showing others how good you are or can be. It is more about being naturally good at what you do and to people around you.

No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind”.-Taylor Swift

Poem for the Day - Silver Man

Tall and powerful
Young and handsome
I thought he looked glistening in the moon’s rays
Was this silver man.
He was all I ever dreamed of
What I wanted my man to be
Different and unique
Perfect and shimmering
But it was my illusion
For my silver man
Was but the reflection
Of a statue.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Why We Do What We Do

Actions determine thought, thoughts determine character. Character is who we are and what we are. Our actions speak for who we are; our actions need to be controlled for us to succeed in life.

Why we do what we do is determined by the thoughts we have had. Our emotions need to be controlled as well as our temperament. Most people cannot do this alone and need the help of psychologists. We must aim to do things we would not regret rather things that would make our names remembered for good.
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten”.-Tony Robbins

Poem for the Day - Bright Night

The yellow flowers lit up the night
Then his smile followed
It was such a bright night
With company so cherished,
We danced all night
To music bright and splendid
It was a most wonderful night
One that may never again be witnessed
For such nights
Come once in a lifetime.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Remembering the Past doesn’t Change the Future

Leaving things behind us has been great challenge to humans. A painful past brings sad memories while a beautiful past brings smiles and an attitude of achievement. Most people allow the past longer in their hearts so much it affects their present and even the future.

Remembering the past doesn’t change the future, rather the past should be used as a lesson learnt to improve the present and the future. Remembering a bad past only stagnates a person preventing one from moving forward and crippling further development.

Our past should stay in the past because that’s where it belongs and our future should be aimed at because that is where we can be champions and conquerors of our past.
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”-Buddha

Poem for the Day - Dark Day

The sun ceased to shine
Though it was sunrise
The day seemed to whine
Like no other day ever
‘twas like judgment day
But without the trumpets
And saints were still present
To witness this dark day
With sinners like we
But no one panicked
Everyone was at ease
On this very dark day
When it was as such
A natural occurrence
An eclipse I presume
But the dark day
Thus lasted but a few hours
Until the blessed sun appeared
And all but forgot the dark day.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Love Yourself

If nobody loves us it means we do not love ourselves. Question is how do you love yourself? Loving yourself is appreciating you-as a person; who you are, what you have achieved and lives touched. You can love yourself by looking good, buying yourself gifts, doing something you love and most importantly, pleasing yourself.

In order to love you without the help of someone else and without spending a dime, you can read a book, take a walk, pluck a flower just for yourself and even smile at yourself in the mirror or sing a song. This gives self confidence and increases the passion you have for just yourself alone.

Avoid waiting for people to show you love. You are the only one who can show yourself love and when you do you begin to attract love from others.

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world”.-Lucille Ball

Poem for the day - To Be the Best

As a child we were the best
Growing up proved otherwise
Where we struggle and clamor
To be the Best.

Monday, January 21, 2013

Keeping an Unplanned Baby

In life we plan everything, from the beginning of the year to the very end. We plan our adulthood, what we study, career path we choose, the friends we have, what life to live, but honestly most babies are unplanned.

Life is full of surprises; therefore we should always expect the unexpected. In a situation we find out a baby is on the way, the first thing that comes to mind is how the baby will fit into our lives. It is necessary to remember a baby remains dependent only for a couple of years; he grows up and leaves to become an individual like us.

In keeping an unplanned baby, we must remember it takes 7-9months for a baby to be born, that is approximately 28-40weeks of planning. Planning for clothing, shelter, medication, adjustment, babysitting. It is so much fun when shopping for an unborn child as you are quizzical on what the child would look like and our imaginations begin to run wild.

Keeping an unplanned baby cannot be so challenging when you have your mind set for the next 18years with this child. The child would look up to you and learn from your finger tips. Even our lives need not be tampered with the coming of the child. We need to face it with confidence and determination, following the right diet and medication and boasting about it all at the end of 18years when the little individual bids you farewell to face the world on his or her own.
“A baby is God’s opinion that life should go on”-Carl Sandburg

Poem for the Day - In This World of Sin

In this world of sin
We all strive for survival
But darkness is everywhere
It creeps upon us like a shadow
Watching our every move
Determining when to strike,
How to strike,
Whom to strike.
We remain vigilant
Escaping the claws of darkness
But how long will this continue?
How long will we remain unsafe?
In this world of sin.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Living a Good Life

Life as we all see it a times may be difficult and sometimes good. But there are certain strategies in achieving to live a good life. Identified here are five strategies.

  1. Love Yourself – waking up in the morning and staring at your image in the mirror, listing five nice things you can see will make you smile and fall in love with yourself.
  2. Forget your worries – living with a terminal illness or a pain in the body or a scar which may be physical or emotional; dump them in the waste bin and live life like it’s your last day on earth. Notice the flowers how they beam, make music from the sounds around you and breathe in the freshness of the air.
  3. Do something you love – it could be playing a game, dancing to some music, spending time with a funny friend, eating out. Just take the step to do something that gives you satisfaction without hurting anyone.
  4. Spend time with nature – there is nothing on this planet as satisfying as spending time with nature. It could be walking barefoot by the beach, swimming, climbing trees, walking on wet grass and playing with pets. These acts give us a good feeling towards life.
  5. Be grateful and count your blessings – being grateful creates room for more blessings to come our way. So be thankful for what you do have and for what you don’t have.
“Not Life, but good life, is to be chiefly valued”-Socrates

Poem for the Day - Compromise

Going against one’s will
Learning to make peace
Striving that all may be well
Struggling for settlement
Envisioning life differently
Accepting certain terms
We all learn to compromise.

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Compromise in Marriage

Two people from two different backgrounds and worlds coming together can be very challenging. Aside form their previous beliefs and lifestyles, there is need to blend with one another in order to cohabit and live peacefully. Compromise in marriage may involve habits, character, beliefs and values, acquaintances, past relationships and finances.
Habits may be good or bad; dealing with habits in a relationship can lead to quarrels and often disagreements particularly when one partner is unwilling to relinquish the habit affecting the other.
Some situations exist where one partner behaved differently during dating and courtship and has developed a new form during marriage. But this is not always true as people fail to see the real person while dating and tend to see the truth in marriage. In this situation, communication must be made to make progress.
Beliefs and Values
Certain beliefs are unacceptable by certain persons which must lead to coming together to weigh the pros and cons leading to a consensual agreement.
Acquaintances are some of the reasons couples have rifts. Some acquaintances may not be accepted by one of the partners and the other may see the acquaintance as a necessary asset in life. The couple should learn to agree on keeping such acquaintance close or at a distance.
Past Relationships
This may be a problem which must be shared. In other words, the truth about the past must be brought to light and the couple should learn to trust one another.
This includes savings, taxes, debts, expenses which must be revealed to each other to avoid bankruptcy and also the couple must accommodate financial advice and help from one another.

“Compromise, if not the spice of life, is its solidity. It is what makes nations great and marriages happy.”-Chinua Achebe

Poem for the Day - Desperation

In pursuit of happiness,
Men do things
Things they do not realize,
Realization that is unnecessary,
Unnecessary thoughts that cause pain,
Pain inflicted by psychology.
Men are desperate.

Friday, January 18, 2013

Composure on a Hot Date

Hot dates come once in a blue moon. Hot dates are dating partners who have no blemish-very attractive, well dressed, perfectly behaved, shower their partners with attention and most importantly, looks like someone from a movie.

These attributes can be discouraging especially when you feel intimidated, either by being under dressed and the entire restaurant is stealing a glimpse at your date. In order to beat this complex nature trying to ruin your night, learn to raise your head high; you may not be as good looking as your date but the night is not about competition. Try to imagine it’s a movie scene and the onlookers are the viewers. Endeavor not to make your date feel small or have the notion you are intimidated. Eat in little bits and drink with grace and class, most dates are aimed at impressing the person you are out with.

Composure on a hot date creates a warm and friendly atmosphere; your date will want to see you again and again. But beware, the next time that happens, your date would not be as hot as the first day, rather would want to look and appear more like you.

“Dating should be less about matching outward circumstances than meeting your inner necessity”-eathian

Poem for the Day - Serial Lover

They were all the same
Tall and Fair
Skinny and Dumb

His first was at Grade school
She’s now a model

His second was at Senior High
She’s now an actress

His third was at College
She’s now an air hostess

The fourth was at his first job
She’s now a dancer

The fifth was at his family reunion
She’s now a reality showgirl

The sixth was at Christmas in Vegas
She’s now a stripper

The seventh was at ski
She’s now a TV star

The eighth was at his second job
She’s now on magazine covers

The ninth was at Church
She’s now very famous

The tenth I hope will be me
So I diet and act stupid
That this serial lover
I have always wanted from childhood
Will be mine someday.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Dating Disasters

Dating can be fun when things go the way we want them to go and our date is good to look at, has a good sense of humor and is easy to talk to. But some dating disasters send us away from dating and discourage us from ever wanting to date again.

When a dating disaster occurs, it should never be a turn off sign. We should ask ourselves, who made the wrong move? Me or my date? The answer should put us in check and help us make amends for future dates. A conclusion can be made when there are constant dating disasters such as; are my dates similar to one another and do I need to quit dating?

There is no formula to a successful date, what is mainly recommended is being natural and easy going; expecting little or nothing from dates, being truthful and lending a listening ear. When first dates goes awry, try giving it a second try, it may be due to your dates having a bad day or the venue was unsatisfactory. If you have quit on dating because of frequent disasters, pull yourself together and try again.

“Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as ‘taking’, you are not getting it”.-Henry Cloud.

Poem for the day - White Stranger

Rainy Day
Headed to the airport
Traffic Jam
Nowhere to turn
Down from the Taxi
Marching through Water
Horns Blasted
Water Splashed
A few more kilometers
But faint did I feel
Thinking of giving up
Then a white stranger appeared.

Clad in white coat
In a white car
With a wide smile
I hopped onto white seats
White with cold and fright
Driving in silence
Nodding her all white hair
To the white Christmas music playing
Must be an angel I thought to myself
For she dropped me off and waved
A special favor from a White Stranger.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Why Girls Love Money

Not exactly a logical statement, but it is common all over the world that girls love money.  This does not necessarily mean boys do not love money as well, but the extremities involved in ladies passionate love for money.

Why girls love money, some may attribute it to the fact that their needs are endless, their accessories are expensive and they need to keep up with trend. Others may view the situation as once a girl is raised in wealth, she cannot live another life. Money plays significant roles in the lives of ladies, apart from the world being competitive, women always like to be admired, spoken positively of and being role models to others.

Nice clothes, designer shoes and bags, expensive jewelry, well made up faces and an expensive car boosts the morale of a lady. Most girls neglect the inner beauty and personality; rather they please the world as their audience to gape at how much they are worth. Most girls would go any length to get money to flaunt, not to save and invest, not to build an empire, but to impress the media and men and oppress other ladies.

Girls love money based on self esteem. A girl’s appearance is her upmost responsibility and only money can put her above others.
“It is not the creation of wealth that is wrong, but the love of money for its own sake”-Margaret Thatcher

Poem for the Day - Don’t Forget Me

Leaving is tearing me apart,
Your departure is causing so much pain
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

I wish I could come along
To serve with you at war front
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

From childhood until now
We have been inseparable
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

Even in our mother’s womb
We held onto each other dearly
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

You have always been my protector
For twenty and one years
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

I will meet a man someday
And you a woman, we will move apart
But don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

A loving brother you always have been
I remain loyal till the day I die
Don’t forget me
I pray Thee.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

New Resolution

It has become a norm, a tradition and a culture for people to make new resolutions at the beginning of a new year. Most people have their hearts set on the future, aiming to achieve higher, to do better, to quit habits and even to improve themselves.

Goals are often set, targets are made, but how many resolutions are kept and achieved? The more people make resolutions, the less they achieve them; this is exceptional to go-getters, determined and motivated individuals who pursue such resolutions without allowing the setbacks of life affect them.

The question which often arises is; is it wise to make new resolutions at the beginning of a new year? Some would say it is because it gives you a focus on what the year would look like and what to look forward to. Others would say; you’ve tried it before, why bother. The answer lies within each individual; if you are moved to make new resolutions, make them and work towards achieving them. If they are not achieved in the year, carry them over to the next year and strive to achieve them. The idea is to write out down the goals and aim to achieve them with positive action towards attainment.

“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other”-Abraham Lincoln.

Poem for the Day - Trusted Foe

It was the beginning of summer,
Free of stress and work.
A day when the sunlight shimmered.
And I, roaming aimlessly like a hawk

At a distance I could tell
My imagination again?
I couldn’t but yell
Until I moved closer to promise my eyes gain

There she was, soft and delicate
My mouth fell wide open
A feeling within prevented me of today’s date
Silence eluded me I could hear the drop of a pin.

My mission was to take her
And I marched to the scene where she stood
Then he moved to her, he as dark as tar
He, an enemy with the hood.

How could she do this to my heart?
She whom I was willing to give the world
This enemy o mine I once fought in martial art
Now has this beauty, making me feel bald.

Rooted in my tracks
I despised her, this trusted foe
She would never experience my love as marks
On her lost soul to show.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Welcome to my true words

Hi everyone! Welcome to my new blog. It will contain heart-touching articles and lovely poems you can send around to anyone.
We kick off with the fun tomorrow and when I say 'we', I mean you guys and myself. See you then...xoxo